I'm hosting an outdoor party for 43
(28 adults & 14 2-yr.olds from 3pm - 7pm)

30 servings Chicken Kabobs w/ pineapple
25 servings BBQ Ribs
30 servings Hawaiian Coleslaw
30 servings Hawaiian Baked Beans
30 servings Beef Kabobs w/ peppers and cherry tomatoes
30 servings med-large Curried Shrimp
30 servings Coconut Curried Rice
30 servings Fruit Salad (consisting of pineapple, mango, papaya, watermelon, grapes and melon in halved coconut shells)
20 servings PBJ sandwiches for picky kids

2 year olds count as about 1/4 person for food, so you are looking at about 32 servings, that is 1/3 of 100 people.

If it is a 4 hour party- a very long time for 2 year olds, who will be over-excited and not have had a nap- I would have a plan for snacks/appetizers around 3 pm and then supper around 5:30.

The appetizer table might include the fruit and veggie additions discussed below, a few pounds of individually wrapped string cheese, some ham or bologna rollups. Interesting crackers, maybe 1 mild and vaguely tropical cream cheese spread, softened creamy peanut butter. You will notice some grownups nibbling, too. Maybe 1 or two grown up bites.

Set up the dinnner serving area without putting the food out to indicate that more food is coming later.

If you are not deeply attached to the shrimp curry, that is the obvious first thing to go. Save this expensive entree with all its delicious condiments for a grown up party. This leaves you with 90 entree servings. Cut all the remaining items (chicken, beef, ribs) in half, and you will still have 45 entree servings, which is plenty. Just be sure to have at least 1 rib per body incuded in that amount.

Rice, slaw and beans are fine. I would not make the peanut butter sandwiches, but rather provide some smallish containers of egg salad, chicken or tune salad, and move over the peanut butter and cheese spread from the appetizer table, plus some interesting bread so parents can make for their kids.

Add a tray of finger veggies, baby carrots, grape tomatoes, etc, with ranch dip to the appetizers or the salad table, kids will actually eat these and so do grown ups.