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self catered wedding for 125
Hi ellen
I have enjoyed reading your comments to everyones post and trying to learn from them.I have a menu my son and his future wife have given me for wedding. Food is my responsibility.
I am trying hard to figure it out from your website but I am a little over whelmed.
I will happily pay you(donate to your site) if you will just tell me how much of each item to make. It will be dinner time when we eat. There will be a mixture of people there. We are estimating 125 people.Not a ton of teenagers or kids. I am planning on cheese and crackers trays and vegetables trays before we eat while waiting for bride and groom to get there. Here it goes:

Vegetable tray- I have 16in trays already on hand
cheese tray-I have 16 in trays already on hand
coffee-I have a 55c. maker
sweetened sun tea

Main course:
I am having a cater do the meat only.

I am making these side dishes and need the help in figuring the amounts:
Baked beans-requested by my son(the groom)
Cheesy potatoes -bride's must have
mac and cheese-groom's must have
Asian slaw-this can be removed if you think its to much.
pasta salad-requested my bride
potato salad-my must have
If you would just give me a guide line on amounts for this menu, I will be entirely grateful.

Thank you

OK, Barb, this is doable and you need to plan on recruiting/hiring some help that will not attend the wedding. Day of you will want to be the Mother of The Groom, NOT the where the heck is the ---- kitchen manager person. This is important. Sources include your caterer, experienced church cooks, local academic culinary programs, and diners that are closed after lunch or on the day you need them. Usual pay is 20-30/hour. For this size group, 2-3 people in the kitchen and about 4- 6 out front to set up, serve, and clean up the party.

I would definitely NOT remove the slaw. This is a very carb-heavy menu, in fact I will be suggesting you add at least 1 additional veg, even if it is a cold or room temp one.

Vegetable tray- I have 16in trays already on hand- use the veggie tray page, but consider doing a classic relish tray and raw veggies for just 75
cheese tray-I have 16 in trays already on hand- about 12 pounds, some can be logs or spread, 8-9 pounds crackers
Consider adding 2 bites per person of a savory, such as the Italian spinach Parm squares on the site, stuffed mushrooms or miniquiches
Consider doing a watermelon boat or the deluxe fruit tray for 100 on the fruit tray page
punch, 8 gallons if the soda will also be available- lemonade or a citrussy punch would be a good choice for a summer wedding

Your sides will have some leftovers, since it is quite difficult to predict the amount of carbs eaten when there are 5 choices. I will do the best I can with this.

I am assuming the meat is something along the pork/beef/chicken BBQ line?

Baked beans-requested by my son(the groom), 4 1/2 gallons (would start with 5 or 6 #10 cans, depends on what you add)
Cheesy potatoes -bride's must have- do for 100, recipe guide at the bottom of the breakfast planning page
mac and cheese-groom's must have- 8 pounds pasta, 1 quart sauce per pound, 1/2 - 1 pound cheese per pound

Asian slaw-4 gallons
pasta salad-requested my bride- 5-6 pounds pasta to start
potato salad-my must have- 25 pounds potatoes

Consider adding 25 pounds ready to eat veg- could be as simply as roasted veg served cold or room temp, Italian style, or 2-3 gallons antipasto veggies, there is a nice recipe on site

coffee-I have a 55c. maker use the reception level plan on the beverage planning page
sweetened sun tea
Do both sweetened and unsweetened- about 6 gallons of one, 3 of the other
pop plan for about 75, using the beverage planning page as a guide for amounts and flavors
water, pint per person, or currently there is a vogue for infused water with sliced citrus or cucumber and mint

Read the article o planning a wedding dinner for more hints.

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